Praise or not?

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"Praising every time lowers a child's motivation," said Dr. Ron Taffel, a Manhattan psychologist. "It cheapens the praise, and children become dependent on praise."

Dr. Barry Lubetkin, director of the Institute for Behavior Therapy in Manhattan, believes that while some parents overpraise, "Most parents don't praise enough. Praise is extremely important in building up a sense of children's own abilities."




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  • motivation: (ÇൿÀÇ) µ¿±âºÎ¿©, ÀÇ¿åÀ¯¹ß
  • cheapen: (°ª)½Î°Ô ÇÏ´Ù
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  • overpraise: Áö³ªÄ¡°Ô ĪÂùÇÏ´Ù
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